How is the return of maternity after childbirth? Being accompanied by a midwife at home, take time for yourself, surround yourself and get help … Our advice to organize yourself well with your newborn baby.
(Update of April 27). THE return home Prepares before childbirth, to gain serenity. Baby room, food, childcare article, aid … Have you thought about preparing everything? Our advice for Anticipate the release of maternity with baby. What to save time on a daily basis to take care of your child quietly …
Regarding the room of your newborn baby, you will surely not have the opportunity to make the finishes after birth: to get to know your baby and find your pace requires a lot of time, which you do not always do before! Of course provide all the bodysuits, pajamas and necessary for rigor for the toilet, and also a large amount of diapers … Sed side, remember to have birth and 1 month: some babies are born larger than others and “zap” the start of birth! Fill the freezer with ready -made dishes Or that you will have prepared before: it may seem little, but you will certainly be happy not to have to think about the menu every day! Brief, anticipate everything that can beeven what seems to you to be in detail … Imagine a few weeks of necessary menus and shopping and ask the dad to go shopping, or to make sure to be up to date in the laundry. Especially if the family already has one or more children. Thus, you will not ask yourself fewer questions concerning the clothing of the elder (s).
You don’t dare? And yet, many people around you are surely ready to help you! Use goodwill so as not to be alone.
Do not miss the paternity leave
He will also get to know his child, and then, he can unload you from certain household chores, do some shopping, take care of the biggest … “I was happy that my husband was able to take her paternity leave when I came back from maternity“, recalls Sophie, mother of a two and a half year old boy. “”He managed all the logistics, the races and the cleaning, we were able to take advantage of two of sharing like the first baths of my son, and I lived to the rhythm of baby, which helped me for breastfeeding “.
Ask for help from your respective families
Your mom, your sister, or your mother-in-law will surely be delighted to lend you a hand if they can. Maybe good friends can make you one or two troubleshooting races or take care of a baby hour while you get out a little? Being surrounded by helped Céline, mother of a two -year -old girl: “I think that it is absolutely necessary to be surrounded (I had my boyfriend and my mother-in-law, and they were great!) During the first days, even the first week. In my case I was really handicapped at first (a big back pain) and I was very tired. In my opinion you need someone at home to cook, shopping and cleaning at first. It is a real relief to be served in bed and be able to take a quiet nap when you are tired“.
Household hours or night guard
Remember to ask them as a birth gift! This can allow you to sleep in one go from time to time. And why not do you Delive your shopping by ordering them on the internet ? Finally, ask your loved ones to call you before you go to see you, you and baby. You will better anticipate the schedule of your days. Besides, Do not overload yourself in visitsyou can for example limit one per day at first to give you time to blow and organize yourself.
A liberal midwife : Some post-natal sessions are reimbursed by health insurance. This follow-up by a midwife at home thus allows Answering the questions you ask yourself: episiotomy, breastfeeding, contraception, baby blues, urinary disorders… The opportunity to take stock after the birth of baby and ask him for help if necessary. In particular, she will be able to help you give the bath at the start, or check the care of the umbilical cord the first days.
The PMI of your citywhose team is attentive: you will find good advice in childcare, food, various care.
A pediatricianalso competent to answer questions about baby behavior
The Allo Parents Baby wire : a green number set up by childhood and sharing, which you can call free and anonymously for any questions relating to your baby. Compose 0800 00 3456: The line is open Monday to Friday, from 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. without interruption. Info on the site: Allo-Parents-Bebe
| Julie, mother of a 2 and a half year old boy, felt a little lost: “I had lots of questions about the care of the baby (about the cord for example), on food (is it drinking enough?) And on me (will my belly deflate?) “. Charlotte, on the other hand, had logistical questions: “How to reconcile the chopped nights of my youngest with the need for sleep of the big one who enters kindergarten? How can I take care of the elder when I go? How to drop and get the big one at school, when the little one needed calm and rest? “ Julie chose to call on a midwife, which she highly recommends to any mom: “We are entitled to a few visits which are reimbursed entirely. The midwife remains 1 hour and answers all questions, concerning the baby or the mother. She helped me to start the diet of my baby because at the beginning it was difficult to take the bottle. She also checked the cord and brought a baby weigh. She also answered more intimate questions about the perineum for example and advised me for pediatricians from her network. Finally after a few visits, I was reassured and I realized that I was doing very well“. |
A more rested mother is a better arranged mother!
So don’t feel guilty to take a little time for you Because mom’s well-being is also beneficial to baby. Many mothers take advantage of the naps of their newborn to perform some household chores. Error ! The right attitude to adopt: Sleep when baby sleeps. For what ? This is simply the best way to alleviate the baby blues, which generally occurs within 3 days of childbirth: fatigue tends to amplify it. With these rest phases, you are also more fit when your little one is awakening : He requires great attention, including at night! Living to the rhythm of baby is finally essential for mothers who have chosen breastfeeding: milk production is linked to the state of fatigue and stress of the mother: the more relaxed and rested, the better your breastfeeding will take place. “”We do not imagine at the first pregnancy how tired you can be tired by the sequel to diapers and the chopped nights“Remember Charlotte, mother of a little boy of 4 and 9 months old and a 2 year old girl.”And with a second, even if we are better armed, there are always “new things”! “. Likewise, it is important to keep a good lifestyle: you don’t jump meal! On the contrary, we opt for balanced menus that give energy.
Get pampered as soon as you return home!
Try, by keeping your baby by the dad or a granny, to give you time for you: an appointment with the hairdresser, at the esthetician or even a massage to make you pamper you will do the greatest good and help you to feel woman, and mother. Find a few friends around a coffee: getting rid of and changing your ideas is the greatest good. In addition, after this time just you, you will feel more relaxed, what your baby can feel … Finally, do not zap them Rehabilitation sessions ! Take care of your body, it is important to avoid the risk of urinary leaks later and find tonic abdominals …
You can feel a little helpless at first, faced with crying that can be found incomprehensible. Did you tell you that a mother instinctively recognizes the needs of her child? It’s a little more complicated than that: You have to get to know yourself and live together! Also, pay attention to the various signals your baby sends you: its expressions, its gestures, its tears that you may find different from each other during the day. You will then decode its language over the days. Do not feel guilty if at the beginning, you do not know very well what he wants! And don’t stay alone with your questions.
Do you tend to want to assume the tasks concerning baby alone? And the dad, in all of this? Let him find his place as a fatherand also give yourself time to find yourself in two … He too, like you, learns to live with three (or more!). Give it privileged moments with baby So that he can take care of it: a bath, a bottle, a hug, a change … as many moments of sharing that he will appreciate. And then, it is not very serious if some put the bodies upside down … value it in its role!
Try to find a little time to talk to you : contact is important in a couple! It may be for breakfast, or a discussion in the evening, when baby is lying. Even a quarter of an hour is beneficial to continue to exchange within its relationship. On the other hand, if at the beginning, intimate relationships are not there (healing, fatigue …), small massages and other other sweet words will allow you to keep physical contact before you both feel ready. Do not be discouraged if at first you are often interrupted in your discussions Or during shared moments of rest: baby will often call you! A useful key can be humor because it defuses situations … crisp. In addition, sharing this humor for two on this situation can help find a bond between parents who compares. In a word, welcome baby upsets everyday life, especially if it is a first: but rest assured, come a time when dinners in head and other small outings are again possible by keeping your child, by grandparents or a baby-sitter for example!
