If there is a front, one of many, in which Pope Francis was revolutionary that is certainly the family. Starting from the three keywords than with great simplicity, but as much effectiveness, he handed us into the general hearing of 13 May 2015 to support harmony in our homes: “permission, thanks and excuse”. “These three-keywords of the family are simple words,” he said on that occasion “and perhaps at first they make us smile. But when we forget them, there is nothing more to laugh, right? Our education, perhaps, neglects them too much. The Lord help us to put them back in the right place, in our heart, in our home, and also in our civil coexistence ».
“The words were central to Francesco’s pontificate” he underlines Don Francesco Pescedirector of the center of the Treviso family. «Daily words, which hit the families and couples I meet every day. With the double effectiveness of being the language that everyone understands and, at the same time, to make everyone feel involved in concrete life. It is the royal family that affects Pope Francis and this the families have perceived him. Everyday things become relevant for faith, indeed we could say at the theological level. I think about the expression of a lady who, after reading Amoris Laetitiahe said “finally!”. That is, finally someone has understood what we are interested in, finally there is room for the newspaper and the concrete situations of families ».
“As permission, thanks, sorry” to apostolic entrance Amoris Laetitia Where the basic idea that spreads the cards is not to replace consciences, but to form consciences. Where the marriage does not become “a pact” to be respected only because you have sworn it before God, but a promise to feed every day.
«So much so that in Amoris Laetitia He says that marriage as a sign implies a dynamic process that advances gradually. It is a path of permanent growth. I think this is also the revolution of Amoris Laetitiathat is, to translate “that time higher than the space” at the level of family relationships and family life, that is, the graduality in the passages, the possibility of taking one more step. The possibility of walking still within your situation, to grow. Many times AM uses the verb to grow. The other word that is back is imperfection, that is, perfect families do not exist. Love lives with imperfection, if the love of my spouse is imperfect does not mean that it is not real, that it is not true. No, he loves me as he can. On the way, growing. I think this is a change of decisive perspective. Love is imperfect not because we are not good, but because love needs time to grow. A theme linked to consciousness because then it is a matter of dealing with the partiality of life, not with perfection or idealism ».
A promise that faces everyday labors …
«It is to put in front of that promised with everyday labors. It is to see how the Lord is present inside the newspaper and this effort, since he is already at work ».
Among the novelties of Francesco also the establishment of the “World grandparents and the elderly day.
«That I’m not a waste. In one of the catechesis on the elderly he says they are those advanced pieces, those 12 baskets full of advanced pieces … of good bread though! Considering grandparents and elderly an integral part of life and faith. For my part I say: they are the ones who fought the good battle and have preserved the faith. It intrigues me as a priest, as a believer to understand how they still believe. How come still participate in community life ».
The other subject of the family that we speak less than the spouses are the children. He also wanted a dedicated world day for them.
«I think of his way of doing, his style. To the children who went to hug him and told him words in the ear … how much beauty ».
Don Francesco Pesce
The last revolution was Conference confidence Always in a global look of mercy.
“To be framed in the wider horizon than with Amoris Letizia It comes out: integrate everyone. The image of Jesus who is a pastor of one hundred sheep, not 99, so he wants them all. This gaze of a church does not seem very nice not as a customs, but as an open house, as a family, where there is room for everyone. Here I believe that family life is very instructive, the Church can learn from family life. As Pope Francis says, at home it is not a party when someone is missing or in any case the party is always bitter, when there is an empty place at the table it is always sad. Therefore, in all the relationships we live we can walk, you can grow even if they do not respect the proposed ideal. They are partial situations in which we can walk, grow in love and life of faith “.
The message that hit her most?
«Families are not a problem. They are not a problem for parishes, nor for priests. We don’t have to do something for families, but we have to look at them as protagonists and therefore, if anything, offer support to stand up and make their mission. Here, this seems very beautiful to me. I add another thing ».
Please.
«Listening to families, many families, couples in this period, in these days, there is a little sadness. Someone said: “We feel like Emmaus’ disciples.” That is, someone is missing important. It is as if someone suddenly lacked and this says the familiarity with which Pope Francis entered the life of many people and many families. Really as one of the house ».
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