We have an 18 year old daughter who started demonstrating
frequent anxiety: since the morning, he gets up with heartbeatshe says, and throughout the day she always feels agitated
from one internal tension. He never had real ones panic attacksbut moments of tightness in the chest,
empty stomach, fear of faintingwhich fortunately pass quite quickly.
She says that It’s not for schooleven if he cares about good results.
TITIAN AND NICOLETTA
Answer by Fabrizio Fantoni
– It seems that theanxiety is the endemic evil of teenagers today, females and males. Many factors come into play: the fear of not making it compared to what one would like to become, the social pressurethe concerns of parents for the future of their children. And, more profoundly, the voltage between one elevated self-perception and the fear of being worth very little. But I often think that these manifestations of anxiety are a kind of emotional passepartouta generic name to give to one’s moods in the absence of a language that can better say what one feels.
From authentic wordswhich truly express desires and fears. Anxiety becomes the signal of a disorganization of emotional thinking that kids don’t know how to take, because it contains labors And anguish difficult to recognize. THE parentsThe adults all of them are often besieged by their own worries in order to lend an ear to those of their children. And when they do, most of the time it’s for reassure that everything will be fine or propose them right solutions.
Give space at words of the boys like theirs silences; do not stop their mouths with your adult responsesbut ask them which ones solutions they propose and which ones resources they can put into play; recognize that the pain is a sign of strength and not of weakness. These are the first necessary steps to take so that anxieties become instruments of growth.
