We are sometimes surprised to see adversaries in the world of sport, who fiercely clashed during a match for example, discussing together, suggesting that they willingly speak to that which they affect to consider as their “worst enemy” …
In fact, their agreement is well beyond the events they live at the same time, only those who know these indescribable moments of extreme tension, can be found in a tiny circle, that of the real champions, where a tiny number manages to access. These intense moments when you have to give more than the best of yourself to go the space of a few seconds – which last an eternity – where no one can go consciously, these moments can be shared only with those who have known these unspeakable escapes. It is therefore impossible to evoke them or to try to describe them to those who ignore everything and will never have the experience.
We must already have reached a very high level in his specialty to access these magical moments. It is, moreover, no need to evoke them specifically, they are part of a mysterious whole, specific to the great champions. They understand each other because they know this outing of the self practically necessary without needing to describe it. Such an agreement, which goes on words to be mentioned, would ultimately be essential to be able to dialogue with common references without getting lost in endless explanations, we speak the same language.
This is obviously an extreme example, mentioned because it illustrates well the easy communication which is established between similar, even if they only know each other in a particular light: in all cases, it takes an common ground, specific and reserved for a more limited number, but we can see how this mechanism works, for example when a large number has watched an important match, they can then talk about it. A simple allusion is enough: a large part of the country vibrated at the same times, the common references are essential, at least with regard to the match.
It is an identical principle that applies when people who do not know each other discover common points: centers of interest, specific places, friends, or even long -surveyed neighborhoods. If we push further, it will be a same way of seeing and living things, talking about it or experiencing identical feelings in front of an event and especially to have the same sense of humor.
Is there more pleasure than laughing together after a simple sentence, a few words, an evocation, a barely sketched gesture? These are evocations, brief and light, very discreet allusions, almost secret. Children love this kind of meeting, they announce the beginnings of a friendship that can last indefinitely thanks to this understanding that goes by words, it can be a simple feeling, but tested at the same time, he has resulted in an identical reaction, a similar movement, which can sometimes take the appearance of a suspicious refusal because a tiny detail will have alerted those who know how to listen to their sensations, even blur
But it is also the power to savor the happy moments together without a comment being necessary.
These perceptions that are difficult to describe and even more to explain often characterize gifted people: they have always been equipped with these capacities and then get along much better with those who have the same mode of operation. This would, in fact, be one of the essential conditions for the establishment of solid and safe friendly links. There can be no betrayal when you experience the same feelings: betraying the friend would be like betraying himself with the suffering that such a situation leads to.
The impression of having always known itself very quickly, we would even have the temptation to speak, in metaphorical form, of previous life, of planets or distant universes where the new friends would have already met: they would then recognize themselves with the pleasure experienced when we find by chance a longtime friend lost sight of, but never forgotten. These are the circumstances that would have separated them, despite themselves. Their happiness is then all the more intense since it is unexpected.
Like athletes who have experienced the same moments out of time and banal reality,-but these elements are constantly present in their minds and therefore in their speeches,-which recognize themselves between them and who recognize in the other something of them, like a reflection that they may never expect to find, appreciate these encounters always dictated by chance, but we can also say that in the event of a rarely borrowed routes, walker would conceal all the beginnings of an immediate and shadow agreement in itself.
Already, children sometimes invent a double, well convenient to continue a discussion started with others, but too soon interrupted. It is nevertheless more cheerful to let his mind wander when you are several, everyone brings their own vision and enriches the subject. For those around them, it is a very small cenacle as he trained to discuss a fair event that occurred between himself, while these exchanges far exceed this event which may have served as a starting point, but the imagination that everyone lets wander far those who can follow it, delighted to be able to share these slightly crazy getaways without anyone being treated and Stop, reinforced by the feeling of superiority of those who welcome their rational, so reassuring side.
Walking among smoky concepts and giving them a reality, even fleeting, is a great pleasure that few know how to offer themselves, themselves are dazzled when they realize that they may have been able to express without being able to ensure that their words will be understood with the exact intention that presided over their formulation. It is a feeling of freedom rarely reached: monitoring your words and previously his ideas before stating them quickly becomes second nature, too much spontaneity quickly leads to a diagnosis of TSA, or a disorder of this order, of which it is then difficult to get rid of.
Tips: Do not worry if a child speaks with great enthusiasm of friends with whom he is particularly well understood when they do not necessarily share a common activity. Once we have made sure that there are no devious manipulations or perversity, we can rejoice in this friendship based on a stunning impression of freedom in the expression, and so much the better if they plan to, among other things, write an epic in twelve songs or the realization of some other project of this order.
