To guilty the boys hiding to cry and stop thinking that girls are null in football, the Hubertine Auclert center is launching the #ONENPARLY campaign. To fight against sexist stereotypes, here is what can be transmitted to your child, from an early age.
Parents too often tend to follow the dictas of society, rehashing to their boy that they are strong, strong and courageous. And even if mentalities tend to evolve, stereotypes persist. Also, “So that Lola can play football at the recess if she wants to, so that Mathias no longer hides to cry, so that we stop repeating in Louise that she does not know what she wants because she is a girl. So that we stop thinking that there are colors of girls and boys’ colors, activities of girls or boys, and careers of girls or boys“… the Hubertine Auclert Center is launching an awareness campaign, #Onenparfor boys and girls aged 15 to 18. The objective: to teach them to go beyond stereotypes and help them choose their professional orientation or their leisure activities with more freedom. Indeed, to fight against sexism first involves education, and parents play an essential role. To help your child grow well and open up to the world around him, here is what your son needs to hear:
You have the right to cry!
It is not because he is the only boy in siblings that your child must hold back his tears in front of the last moving film of coconut! His sisters and yourself have shed your little tear, but it is proud to announce that he has retained his. Tell him that he is also entitled to free himself from his emotions and that crying is sometimes the greatest good.
We can’t always be the strongest
Your child is proud to show you his small muscles 5 centimeters in diameter. Admittedly, he likes to be valued and needs to feel that he is the strongest in the world. But try not to put pressure on him. Because we cannot always be as powerful as Spiderman or Batman. This will prevent him from feeling guilty when he does not feel up to par. Also, make him understand that he can always confide in you.
To succeed, just give yourself the means
Is your child not the best in his class? It does not matter, it will have all the time to learn and improve. Nevertheless, take the opportunity to make him understand that he must work in school to ensure a good future. Because no, it is not enough to be a man to earn a better life than women!
Why you wouldn’t play in the doll with your sister ?
Avoid differentiating girls’ games from those of boys, because this is where sexism begins! And then, will a child playing in the doll be a good father later? In the same way, why not offer your daughter to play football with him or small cars? The main thing for children is to have fun together and share common activities, which will make them grow with complicity.
Your father is a gentleman!
Give him a good example by thanking your spouse when he opens the door of the house, or that he offers to help you put your coat. By seeing his attentive father, your son will become aware of the good behavior that a man must have towards women.
And if we cooked together ?
No more time when men were all “machos”. Today, household chores are shared and women are no longer the only ones behind the stoves. Besides, why not offer your boy to cook with you, to help you put the table, or to store his toys together? …
What color would you like to repaint your room?
Are you planning a little change in the decor of your apartment? Offer your boy to choose the color of his room, by presenting him with a color chart with a multitude of colors, so that his choices are not only limited to blue (because “blue is for boys!”).
A book to encourage him to become a feminist
There are a multitude of anti-sexist books adapted to the age of toddlers, from 3 years old. Like the album “What are you playing“At Sarbacane editions, or Rose Bonbon (Actes Sud Junior editions) and fed up with pink (Albin Michel Jeunesse), these works make it possible to point the finger at received ideas. A good way to make them understand that girls can do everything and vice versa.
