He never recognizes his wrongs and bounces with these words.
Manipulators feed on the energy and qualities of others to establish their power. Anyone can be exhibited one day: at work, in love life, with friends or even with family. The manipulator uses harmless appearance sentences often launched under the cover of concern or simple advice. In reality, these words sow doubt and undermine self -confidence.
As a state of confusion settles down. The targeted person no longer knows whether his feelings and emotions are legitimate or not. Psychological grip is a subtle manipulation that can affect all types of people. It settles in the duration, gradually weakening vitality. “”Being under grip is as if someone flews to you the best in you“, illustrates Dr. Ramani Durvasula, clinical psychologist.
The manipulator never recognizes his wrongs and does not apologize. Instead, he answers “it’s your fault if I behave like that”, during a conflict, a confrontation or simply to justify a lack of commitment. “”This sentence is particularly unexpected and destabilizing because it constitutes a complete and absurd reversal of responsibility. Instead of assuming his own actions, the manipulator blames the victim for his bad behavior“She explains in her podcast entitled” Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani “.
Faced with these kinds of sentences, the most important thing is not to justify yourself, defend yourself, or argue, as it feeds the dynamic of manipulation. The healthiest and most powerful approach is to calmly affirm that everyone is responsible for their own actions, which allows a limit to be taken and not to be taken into the game of the guilt of the manipulator. You can for example use sentences like “your behavior belongs to you” or “I will not take responsibility for what you have done”. Furthermore, speaking to a loved one or a trusted professional allows you to find a healthy perspective and to escape this psychological grip.
