A few months ago, my daughter Gaia saw her father texting with a woman on his cell phone. She told him and he revealed it to her is having an affair outside of marriage and That It’s not his first betrayal in 20 years of marriage.
Gaia is 17 years old and was traumatized, being very close to her father. Now we are doing the separation practices. My husband left home at the start of the year. I am very worried about Gaia.
JUSTINA
– Dear Justina, the revelation for Gaia was a shock, even if who knows if completely unexpected. Perhaps will have caught the signs of a difficult marital relationship even before this event. I hope you have a space to express and rethink all this, with a friend or, if the suffering is too great, with a specialist. I think you have to do it Be careful not to unload your strong emotions on Gaia of this period.
In particular, you will have to protect her from your pain, I imagine large. I also hope you had a chance to talk to her jointly about your decision to separate, letting her express to you what she feels: probably, feelings of pain, anger, disappointment.
It needs time to picking up the pieces of the relationship with her dad and finding a new way to be with him, now that he lives elsewhere and no longer sees him every evening. AND the father will have to recognize and accept the bitterness that his behavior aroused in the girl, in an age in which she herself is probably wondering what it means to build secure love relationships.
Now you and she are alone in the house; you cannot think that everything will go back to the way it was before, with everyday occupations and rules, as if nothing had happened. Give yourself time to rebuild a new relational balance.
