Surpassing oneself is an essential need for a gifted child, so that he can build his own image.
We know that gifted children like above all else to take on a challenge; when they do not find the opportunity, they fall asleep and could even waste away, crushed by too much boredom. This is an essential need to build their image. It is certain that all children experience the pleasure of having overcome a particular difficultybut, for gifted children, this difficulty must be really more difficult.
In fact, these occasional victories are not enough; gifted people, children and adults alike, like to give their full potential without restriction; it is then that they truly feel themselves, they follow the pace that really suits them, without constraining themselves or slowing down to avoid excessively differentiating themselves.
An almost vital need
We think of expeditions, of races, where the participants know that they risk putting their very lives in danger: they evoke, all at once, the intense concentration during the preparations and the training and the excitement which overcomes them. at the idea of facing these extreme dangers. Solo races are one of the most famous examples. Just like top athletes, they need a mental steel to maintain their own strength in the face of inevitable troubles.
These cases illustrate in an emblematic way the way of being of those who have need to put themselves to the test to find the opportunity to surpass themselves and then feel in tune with their deep sensitivity ; no doubt, in the absence of any possibility, they would have the feeling of a diminished existence, as if dormant, away from real life, which they would perhaps end up wondering if it exists elsewhere than in their dreams. In reality, these dreams prepared them. At the first opportunity that presents itself, they do not ask questions, they follow the path that has just appeared because they have been ready to take it for many years. One might believe that these are exceptions, that these are paths followed by a tiny number, whereas the areas where it is necessary to surpass oneself are multiple, but less spectacular.
Required maturity
These vocations are emerging little by little, unlike exceptional adventurers, you need a certain maturity of mind to project yourself into a role where you will have to assume responsibilities, sometimes very heavymake decisions in the second, without neglecting the slightest detail, while exercising an overview of a generally unusual situation. The most striking illustration remains the emergency in medicine. The now venerable “Emergencies” series, followed by many others which address this important theme, has undoubtedly aroused many vocations by showing that this surpassing oneself constituted an almost banal daily life for the protagonists.
Surpassing oneself requires a perpetual struggle against forces that surpass man, without fear of confronting them while knowing that victory is never assured despite disproportionate efforts, supported by intense reflection. Those who choose to lead this fight do not fear being sometimes forced to recognize their failure; its threat persists, even if every effort is made to avoid it. Accepting defeat undoubtedly requires the same strength of character as that which sustained the fight, especially since the momentum which carried it has waned.
Surpass yourself with modesty
This specific fight is emblematic, but not everyone has this vocation. Fighting against raging elements requires just as much self-improvement and ability to develop a strategy. When these battles are recounted with skill, they become emblematic of the immense value of human forces in the face of senseless catastrophes.
For someone who did not think for a moment about sparing his strength, his conduct was not exceptional, he acted as he should and as was expected given his role. Surpassing oneself is then so natural that it goes hand in hand with what appears to be admirable modesty.while for the hero his actions are simply in accordance with the choice of his function. He never has the feeling of having gone beyond his strength, it was normal that he did not save himself, he is simply happy if he has contributed to restoring or maintaining the harmony which should normally preside over everything that is human, he cannot behave differently. He followed his own rhythm.
An immense joy felt
It can only be that of thought, when the right word, the irrefutable argument, the most relevant expression come immediately to mind, just as the fencer sometimes has the feeling of being guided by his foil, the phrase, which can arouse the admiration of listeners, formed itself with the most impactful elements.
The joy and satisfaction of having been able to act in accordance with one’s deep personality outweighs any fatigue caused by such an expenditure of energy, while that caused by monotonous, repetitive tasks, involving no challenge, is almost fatal. These impulses which cannot be expressed, the obligation to apply themselves to slowing down, because a faster pace would lead to catastrophic disorganization if the gifted person works within a team, unless all the members of this team resemble each other for the happiness of everyone, end up weighing a barely bearable weight.
A concept specific to each
Eventually, surpassing yourself is a subjective notion, it all depends on the environmentbut it must be recognized that with the exception of sports or specific competitions, children rarely find the opportunity, but not all of them have a sporting vocation, even when parents aware of this diminishing situation try sports the rarest, which provoke an absent-minded and polite interest in a child who is eternally immersed in books and who already writes small, beautifully crafted texts or who loves to solve mathematical problems so complex that their elders get lost.
Whatever the field of action, drawing from within oneself unsuspected strengths provides unparalleled joy; it is a way of being that must be encouraged without being surprised by the unexpected results that this approach brings. This is how a well-designed, bold, organized personality is shaped and above all in tune with itself in an essential harmony.
Advice : it is better to remain attentive to know if a child is not plunged into an ocean of boredom which offers him unappealing prospects for his future, rather than making him wait while waiting for the possibly more complex future that we are giving him shimmer, it is better to provide him with the opportunity to go beyond himself so that he discovers joys that will amaze him.
