Did your best friend asked you to organize her dream weekends before D-Day (or your super friend, for his bachelor party)? If it does not enchant you, know that you are not the only one (e). Conversely, if you are delighted, you may quickly be disillusioned.
Some news cannot be refused even if we really want. But who has already seen a friend answer “Oh, no, I’m lazy“When it is entrusted with the organization of a young girl’s life (EVJF for regulars), or a friend”I have pool“For her evg? At the time, we feel touched, honored and happy to be part of this precious moment in the life of the future bride. Except that we do not yet realize that it is we will end up burying. Demoiselles of honor or witness, close friend or best friend … Some young women have experienced this new mission which falls: organize the Best.
Future brides are generally not aware of the problem, not seeing why things could turn to vinegar. “But clearly, it’s a poisoned gift“, Said Jessica, who had to manage the EVJF of her best friend last May.”I offered a great weekend with girls, with moments of relaxation to stick to the desires of the future bride that I know well. But I was quickly confronted with unreasoned people, who never responded to my messages when it was necessary to quickly reservations“, she confides to us. Between those who do not like the idea of activity, those who find it” too expensive “, or who ask that we advance the costs (when we barely know them). “Finally, it’s a real hassle! And then, we pass for the unpleasant person who relaunches everyone all the time”… A situation that can quickly put a cold before even meeting for the weekend. Hello the atmosphere!
Without forgetting an essential thing: “Organizing an EVJF, it takes a lot of time! We have to do with the constraints of a dozen people“Add Justine, to whom we also affected this task. If you thought that planning a journey as a couple was already complicated, tell yourself that there, it is hell. Between our professional life, our family life … It is often difficult to invest as we would like. “Personally, it spoiled me a lot of evenings and weekends“, Admits Justine. Finally, the organization of an EVJF can also turn into a nightmare! Sophie, she was afraid of not being up to the expectations of the future bride by entrusting her that she did not feel able to take up the challenge as a witness. Result: her friend, upset, confided the task to someone else and her marriage (before her marriage (before “Reinvite”).
If some EVJFs are organized fortunately in a good mood, it must still be aware that what the future brides ask their friend is very often synonymous with a real constraint imposed on them. So, before telling her the “good news” that she will never dare to refuse, tell her to do things without pressure and do not have too much requirement so as not to put pressure on her. A simple day, to meet and relax, will be more than enough.
