“It is never too late to access this better understanding of yourself in order to get more satisfaction.”
Years go by but are you really happy in your life? We don’t always know it but it is possible to improve your life very easily without upsetting everything: “Whatever the moment of our life, redistributing the cards is possible. It is never too late to access this better understanding of yourself in order to draw more satisfaction and to contribute better to the world in which we live“explains Monique de Kermadec, clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst, author of the book”The biggest of loves: get to know each other and love yourself“.
Several tools are effective in getting to know each other better and fully live your life. The first thing to do is to learn to listen to. “”In people who find it difficult to feel or express their emotions, the body takes over. It is he who will then express themselves, causing internal agitation or accelerating your heart rate“Illustrates the specialist. You can lead an introspection through questions: why do I do this? Is it for me or to please others? What is I missing to be filled? “You will not have immediate answers, it is a job that requires patience, but which gives long -term results.”
The second thing recommended by our interlocutor is to give moments of loneliness to afford attention. “”We are so busy and asked that we no longer give ourselves time, which is ultimately harmful to ourselves. Delivering yourself to this work helps to get to know each other better, but also to give yourself strength, pleasure and knowledge of the relationships we need with others. Time for oneself inspires us positively and we no longer have this feeling of missing out on our life. If you don’t like loneliness, you can try to get involved in new activities to consolidate your self -confidence and get optimism. “
Finally, she advises to have a newspaper to note small objectives and take into account her progress. “”You can note all your desires, but also your values, which makes sense for you. Do not hesitate to be instinctive, just adding words or sentences that you feel at the moment. When you rediscover these pages, you will understand better what touches you, what disappoints you. Your external listening, it will be yourself. This notebook can help you free yourself from sometimes toxic relationships and make your own choices. ” On a daily basis, do not forget to congratulate yourself and encourage themselves.
