The story of a meeting, of a relationship, of a network that is built with the arrival of a child. Arianna Ciucci, three boys now twenty -year -olds, a husband and a profession chosen with the soul, that of midwife, in her book the good birth tells pregnancy, childbirth and care in the light of her thirty -year path alongside the families. And he explains, with sweetness, how to support them. «Meanwhile, I like to widen my gaze: when a child is born, yes a mother was born, but also a dad. The person we have next is the first resource, you have to involve her throughout the journey and exit the mentality that it is only the mother who has to be supported. It is necessary to widen the gaze to the entire family “. Then you have to prepare. “A path of awareness is necessary on the importance of creating, in the time of pregnancy, the reference points that will serve after childbirth: a good communion with the partner, the harmony, the search for those realities present in the area that can support”. Certainly the first fabric is the family: «Grandparents, uncles, tight friends. However, they must enter the idea of taking care, of nourishing those who nourish. It is necessary to give space to parents to learn to be parents, it is necessary to lighten them with everything that is not important in that instant so that they can dedicate themselves to the care of the child. There is no need to replace but those who allow you to grow ».
What if the grandparents are far or work? «The network can be created with other families who are experiencing the same path. The peer group can give important resources, normalize the experience, to be a comparison, help in solitude. The mothers find themselves very sun, the partner is at home a month at most then he returns to work ». In the others you can find an answer, an exchange of information. “Then there is the network of professionals, of experts in the sector: realities in the area must be enhanced that can work on self -efficacy, associations, consultors. In our society, the culture of parenting that once was learned was missing because you saw your mother had other children and sisters become parents. Now you don’t have it: you need someone to help read the path, find personal resources ». Parents have also changed over the years: «They are much more informed than I was, and this leads to doing things very well. But sometimes this big acquaintance causes you to be afraid of not doing quite well. The performance is massacring the maternal. Two things must be kept in mind: the originality of one’s history, so the fact that there is no solution that is good for everyone, but the path is personal. Then the awareness that, like every parent of the world, is wrong, you are human people. So you live the knowledge that allows us to offer our baby the best, but also live the human parents, of a humanity that has a limit ».
