To get married is supposed to be one of the most beautiful moments of life. However, preparations often turn to the obstacle course for the couple himself. Our advice to prepare this big day calmly.
Between the choice of the place, the exploding budget, the mother-in-law a little too present and the entire evenings spent talking about table plans, it is easy to get upset. And sometimes it overflows. So how to keep calm, stay united and not question everything before you even said “yes!” to her future husband or his future wife?
First crucial point: Stop wanting to do everything for two. It is not because we get married that we must have exactly the same tastes or validate each detail together. The menu can be managed by one, music by the other. The goal is not to share everything, but to distribute the tasks intelligently. We choose what is important to us and we delegate the rest, without monitoring or taking up the other. You will see, one will have more contact in music, the other, more organized, will be more likely to manage the administrative documents to bring together for the town hall … to each their expertise.
Then we talk about budget. This is often where it gets stuck. No need to dream of a castle if it ends up for six months. We put things clearly from the start: how much we have, how much we want to put, who pays what. Does everyone pay their guests or do we make half-and half? What if he has more family? In this case, do we share the wedding checks and gifts? In short, fix the rules from the start: it is better to have a happy little wedding than a big event full of tensions.
Also learn to put things into perspective, because you will meet unforeseen events: providers who cancel, those who do not deliver exactly what you have ordered, professionals who require deposits … All this can raise tension, and relationships can be a little more tense in the couple … especially when you announce that you do not want your beloved to invite the children of his guests!
Finally, last point: take breaks. Real. Evenings without talking about marriage, weekends we go out, where we breathe, where we remember why we get married. Because yes, a wedding is a day, so you might as well don’t try it before you even get there!
