It is not easy to make friends when you grow. Especially since young people are now faced with a new problem.
The friendships that we weave in adolescence and the beginning of adult life are of paramount importance. Friends are the base on which to rely, in good and bad times. Over time, the friendships can be worsened. But that does not detract from the strength of these relationships, forged after adolescence, and which often mark a whole life.
But as we grow up, does it not become more difficult to make new friends? The entry into the professional world, love stories, ruptures, moves … It is not always easy to maintain your friendships, and to forge new ones. This is one of the difficulties faced by young people today: entering the others, to see yourself “for real”, to build around you a group of friends on whom you can count.
Adolescents and young adults are super connected. They spend a lot of time exchanging on WhatsApp and on different social networks with lots of “friends” they have never met. Even if it is important not to devalue these relationships, which are also precious and important, they lack the concrete meetings in real life. And many young people express today the difficulty which is theirs in establishing links outside the virtual world. Because these social networks have another defect: they convey an image that is sometimes distorted to reality, putting pressure on young people, which do not feel up to par or themselves have unrealistic expectations in terms of friendship.
So how do you remedy it? By continuing to go to others, in real life, instead of clinging, by offering your virtual friends to meet and especially by being patient. This need for relationships is human, and it is a safe bet that these friends from the networks actually want the same thing as you! So, we turn off the computer or phone and meet for a picnic or glass.
