Dear Maristellathe report card of the second quarter for a teenager and his family represents the reading of a path that lasted a year.
Many parents, however, faced with their children’s report cards, do not know how to place themselves. Some contest the votes assigned by the teachers (too severe, unjust, impartial). Others do not accept the outcome that provides debts in September. Still others must face the questions that are opened by the most inauspicious outcome, namely the rejection.
I believe that students, parents and teachers themselves must work much more on pathwhat really matters, that on the finish line. The votes are indicators, but not the punctual photography.
Guys and adults follow the votes anxiously and urgently on the electronic register. Notifications await it, they consult it several times a day, as if the truth was written there.
What should really be interested is how the journey proceeds, where our son (or one of our students) arranges in putting one step after another, how to allow the team of his companions to be a place of collaboration and not of competitiveness.
That is, a relational system in which the question that matters is not “What vote did you take?” (for this reason I would abolish – completely and forever – the electronic register).
There are schools that give too much importance to the votes, it is true. But there are also mothers and dads who give even more importance to those same votes. Sometimes an insufficiency makes the parent cry, he makes him tie from the teacher to protest, unable to welcome and understand the judgment of another on his child.
What really matters is that The votes must speak to a child, not to a parent. The votes must be things that belong to them, their journey.
As a parent, I have always left responsibility for their votes to my children. Which does not mean loving the evaluation based on votes, it simply means knowing that Life will submit them several times to evaluations.
Maybe in those situations there will be no votes. Nonetheless, several times they will have to speak with themselves, at the end of a test, to understand if they went well or badly.
And in the event that you find out you have gone badly (even in front of all those six), it will be inevitable to ask the only question that matters: “What can I do to improve?”
This summer read together Write parent, read hope (Hellenic): It will help you.
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