My life changed completely when I was in love with a person. You will never be the same person as you are in this moment. He will also not be the same person as he is in that moment. And when you start your life together, you can grow together. I immediately felt that with Asser, that he is so adventurous. He likes trying new things. He is funny. So I was very happy, like, that I was, like, technically dating him and that I was seeing him. – Sure. – But at the same time, I was reminding myself that no, I’m supposed to be an activist. And I can’t get married, and this is all a distraction. Right, and you were so staunchly opposed, you know, you write you were so opposed to marriage as an institution. – Yes. – Because of what it represents, the patriarchy. You didn’t want to be controlled. Yeah, how did you reckon with those things? I will be honest that I liked Asser, and everything was going well. I was also scared if Asser would be the same person as he is now. I am an activist for girls everywhere. I can fight for myself. But it was – It just felt like I could not, I just did not want it to be a situation where now suddenly I was getting married and this guy was like, you know, I have to fix another guy, and I have to fix another problem while I’m advocating for so many other things. I did not want it to be like another journey of activism for me. I was like, if marriage makes life easier and happier, then I should consider it.
