Conjugal violence takes place in the intimacy of the couple. However, some signs may alert those around them. Françoise Brié, vice-president of Solidarité Femmes, takes stock.
“”A victim of domestic violence is not found at first glance“, Prevents Françoise Brié. Often, women beaten or morally harassed hide the alarming signs.”They are so shame, they feel guilty“, explains the vice-president of the National Federation Solidarity Women (FNSF). Some behaviors can however put the chip in the ear. Denigration repeatedly, signs of fatigue or depression are clues not to underestimate.
During family meetings, for example, relatives can be alerted by certain situations. “”If Monsieur Messe Mrs.if he criticizes his way of dressing and expressing himself… do not hesitate to intervene or ask questions to the supposed victim“. In the same way if the person seems lonely.”Lhe violated women tend to be isolated. Their spouse pushes them to move away from their family and friends, in order to have them for himself alone“, Develops Françoise Brié.
Stress and nervousness
There professional situation can also gradually degrade. “”Moral and physical violence causes a post-traumatic stresswhich itself leads frequent disease stopssometimes until dismissal. “This same stress can lead the victim to be nervous, to have Agitation reactions or inconsistent speech.
“”She often passes for a hysterical in front of her attacker, who remains calm to save appearances“, deplores Françoise Brié. Besides that, the violent spouses Do not hesitate to call their partner constantly to know what she does. They harass her, are jealous and sometimes too attentive.
Help victims
Close, neighbors, colleagues or even health professionals can suspect domestic violence. In this case, Françoise Brié recalls the importance of listening: “Above all, you shouldn’t judge the person, but show them that they are supported, welcome them at home if necessary. And do not take the place of professionals.“How to act effectively? orienting the victim towards people trained in this (social worker, psychologist, etc.), giving him the number 3,919 violence women info (anonymous, free and undetectable from a fixed position) or by providing it Association addresses. And also, keeping in mind the slogan of an FNSF campaign: “To be silent is to participate“.
