My second 15 -year -old son in the second four -year -old school had A very obvious drop in the desire to study and, consequently, of profit.
All this coincided with the fact that she started attending school boys with whom she had spent a weekend in the mountains organized by some teachers. With them, One afternoon he drunk in the park. On that occasion, when I asked him if he also smoked cannabisreplied: “Today not”.
In the following days we left it and he confirmed that In the group of friends almost everyone smoke cannabis, but that he does not do it. I have the doubt that tells me what I want to hear and that he too every now and then gives shots to those cursed rods. The situation really put me in a state of confusion and I wonder if there is a certain way for which a parent can ascertain if a child uses psychotropic substances or not.
VIOLA
Dear Viola, There are no certain ways to understand if a child uses cannabinoids if not the search for cannabinoids in the urinethrough A specific kit that is available in the pharmacy.
Very very much parents who nourish your own doubts, in reality, do not come to resort to the diagnostic kit, because they feel they are able to face the question while keeping the relationship and dialogue with their child open and checking the general conditions to which he returns home at the end of his releases with friends, over the weekend.
This educational mode coincides with the formulation of A contract with their child, to whom they provide an increased freedom as long as that child proves to be available to ensure that he will not use drugs.
In cases where the parent suspects that the confidence granted to the child was then used to experiment with psychotropic substances, it can be proposed to the same child that in the following weeks a test will be performed on a day at random to make sure that the agreement made with the family has been respected.
This eventuality is considered possible where one realizes that the child has had episodes of loss of control over alcohol or cannabis.
To you, dear Viola, I say that nobody can tell you what is the right thing to do. I, as the father of four teenage children, have never felt the need to subject them to a test of this type. But working with some boys and their parents, sometimes I considered it necessary to propose this also.
To deepen the theme, I recommend you read the beautiful book of Furio Ravera teenage souls (Salani ed.) And that of Laura Pigozzi the age of the string. Young people, drugs, psychotropic drugs between conformism and addiction (Rizzoli ed.).
