Parents and maternal assistants have a relationship of trust. Despite everything, it happens that the latter do not tell them everything … And it is not at all with a malicious intention! The proof with the testimony of Laurence, which has been practicing for twenty years.
When parents and a maternal assistant decide to work together, they agree with mutual trust focused on the well-being of the child. The first undertake to comply with the schedules decided, to pay it in time, to respect it as an employee and as a person, etc. As for the second, it undertakes to ensure the well-being and security of the child, to contribute to its development, to implement the instructions of the parents … In short, everyone has its role to play so that Everything is going well.
It is very important that this is the case, so that everyone finds their account, that the maternal assistant is not stressed by difficult relations with her employers, and that parents can leave their child for the day without worry. When they come to recover it, the family and the maternal assistant generally exchange a few words, especially to take stock of the day, on their nap time, your meal, its activities, etc.
But in a very specific situation, the maternal assistant can voluntarily decide to hide certain details from parents. And it’s with the best intentions in the world! Laurence, a childminder approved for twenty years, tells us: “When a child takes his first steps in my house, I do not tell parents, and I know that the vast majority of my colleagues do the same thing. Attending this big stage in the life of their baby is very important to them And I do not want to deprive them of this pleasure, frustrate them by telling them that it happened at home when I know that they really want to see it first “.
It is true that, as a parent, attend the first first of his child (first smile, first steps, first words, first laugh …) is always a very moving moment, and we can be sad to have missed him . Laurence, who is also a mother of three (big) children, knows this very well. “I am always happy to see the children I keep progressing, but the first steps are not as great stage in my eyes as those of the parents, so I prefer to suggest that it happened at home. This omission is nothing compared to the pleasure they will feel by assisting there anyway. He does it at home, he will soon do it at home! “she explains to us.
