![If you spot these behaviors on your wedding day, the future of your relationship is at risk. If you spot these behaviors on your wedding day, the future of your relationship is at risk.](https://img-3.journaldesfemmes.fr/OWvoBjBJPaoKbRA5ZOJZjh6BFKU=/1500x/smart/8e29cf2c7d8b4e25986f3f1ca463637b/ccmcms-jdf/39925129.jpg)
Behind the lens of their camera, wedding photographers are able to spot certain signs that indicate that a union is not going to last over time. Here are 6 of them:
By spending time with the bride and groom, between the first formal meeting, the preparations and the wedding day, professional photographers generally see details that are unmistakable. If they are the privileged witnesses of the relationship which unites the couple, they sometimes witness scenes and behaviors which announce that the marriage is probably doomed to failure. Questioned by the HuffPostseveral American photographers shared the 6 warning signs of divorce, with a few anecdotes.
1. One of the partners does not want to be photographed
According to the experience of Rob Greer, photographer in Houston, it is important to know before the ceremony if your partner wants or does not want to be photographed, and if he refuses to agree on some compromises . Because some people aren’t really comfortable in front of a lens, which can be understandable. Rob Greer notably remembers a bride who told him a little sharply “‘Don’t point the damn thing at me today!’ They divorced three months later. he reports to our colleagues.
2. The bride and groom put themselves down during the ceremony
Some couples make remarks to each other and justify them as simple jokes. But on the wedding day, this can potentially be a sign to spot. “I have captured over 1,000 marriages in my career and I know that when I see a couple fighting or bickering throughout the day, it will only get worse and will most likely lead to a breakup” , comments Brian Delia, a professional photographer in New Jersey. “The worst I’ve seen was a bride who told my team, ‘I’m not kissing him anymore.’ It was so subtle, but very profound. The groom didn’t say a word and I thought, ‘This is already the beginning of the end.’ he declared to the HuffPost.
3. Chemistry that seems fake
Couples sometimes don’t have any chemistry between them and in front of the photographer’s lens, this never bodes well. “It’s a bad sign when I’m photographing the couple and one of them overcompensates for the other’s lack of interest,” points out Gretchen Wakeman, a wedding photographer in Phoenix, Arizona. “Too often the focus is on a beautiful image to share on social media. Sometimes they just lack the natural chemistry and emotional connection,” specifies the expert.
4. There is only physical attraction between the bride and groom
If a married couple’s relationship is based solely on physical attraction, in the long term, such as lack of chemistry, it can be detrimental to them. Professional photographer Sol Tamargo of Mexico-based studio Del Sol Photography witnessed just this. “I remember one specific wedding where I was with a young couple. They had a very physical relationship and it was interesting to observe their body language and the way they communicated with each other. At the end of the wedding, They invited me to photograph them in a private room for intimate and sexy photos. It was a strange feeling and I politely refused, finished my evening and went home. A year after the wedding. , they separated”, she recalls to our colleagues at HuffPost.
5. The wedding budget is a source of conflict
In a marriage, when it comes to money, if the two partners do not agree on the budget to allocate for each service, this can lead to conflicts, and sometimes even to a breakup. This is the observation of Carlos G. Osorio, wedding photographer in Miami: “Money is a big factor in all marriages and often plays a role in their failure.”
6. The couple doesn’t party together
During the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom usually spend time together: dancing, laughing, eating or posing for photos. It also happens that they go their separate ways to speak to their guests. But when this short separation turns into several hours, it can be questioning behavior. “I photographed an entire reception and only captured a handful of images of the couple together – that’s a really bad sign,” notes photographer Gretchen Wakeman at HuffPost.
Of course, all of these signs are not to be taken literally, but they can help you to have a discussion with your partner if you notice that something is not going well in your relationship.