Confident, best friend … The comforter occupies an important place in the life of a child. And in case of loss, it’s the drama! Our advice to best manage this situation.
THE baby blankettransitional object par excellence, comforts the little ones from an early age. Cuddles, funny and endearing, these best friends in the form of a very soft rabbit or bear, reassures them and accompanies them in their sleep, becoming the best companions in the world. But When the Doudou, yournt darling by your child is lost, it is the drama. Under the bed, at the criband even in the street … You have checked everything, under the eyes full of hope of your little one, but impossible to find it! We will now have to explain to him why his comforter will not come back.
Should we tell her child that his comforter is lost?
It is first of all “essential not to dramatize and tell the child“”explains Catherine Pierrat, psychologist. It is indeed useless to tell him that his blanket had, for example, “want to walk” or “find your mother”. Your toddler should know that his comforter is lostbut you do everything to find it even if the chances are slim. Above all, he should not believe that he is responsible for this situation. The psychologist advises parents to recognize their error, quite simply. “It must be told to his child that we are sorry, that the comforter is lost and offer him other models. He will end up either choosing a new model, or by not taking it. Some children will indeed prefer not to have it at all than replace theirs.”
Have several comforters in reserve
The comforter having a particularly important place in the life of a child, we must think of have others in reserve In order to avoid any drama in the event of loss. Catherine Pierrat advises parents of“”Buy several comforter models : two or three for the house, one or two for the crèche … ” You can also offer your child to adopt as a new Doudou, one of his many toilets.
Impregnate the comforter of its smell
Yes but now, it is however possible that your toddler does not accept this new comforter to your greatest dismay, even if the comforter is identical to the previous, even very similar. So why does your child don’t want to have this new friend? His refusal is simply due to the fact that he does not find The familiar smell of his lost comforter Who corresponded to that of his mother, his house … Before offering a “replacement comforter” to your child, you must therefore think of impregnating him with the smell of the house, but also and above all, of his smell by sticking it to yourself, putting it in his bed … You will put all the chances on your side so that your child adopts it. Also be careful when you decide to go to the washing machine, because you believe it is far too dirty for your child to carry it with your mouth. Notify your toddler that Jojo Rabbit will have a different smell than the one he is used to feeling, because he might no longer recognize him.
Take a look at specialized sites
Is your child (really) inconsolable? You can try your luck on Sites specializing in the loss of comforters. For example, Clever comforter Proposses Sale of new or used comforters. Perhaps you will find the same model as your child’s comforter? On this site, you can also post an ad to try to Find the lost comforter. This is also the case of SOS Coudou which lists Lost cuddly ads or found in France. Also note that the Doudou et Compagnie brand offers a “lost comforter” offer in order to have a chance to recover your child’s best friend. It is enough to inform the name or reference of the comforter as well as its color, its type, the collection to which it belongs. The brand then puts any work to find a comforter identical to that lost.
The Doudou, a “transitional object”
From the First months of baby, the comforter (skillfully called “transitional object”), allows you to go from maternal nest to the outside world without hitting. Regardless of the nature of the comforter (a piece of yellowed sheet, a loose plush …), provided that its familiar smell and its cozy texture recall mom’s perfumes, sweet milk and hot sheets of the cradle. This is why a brand new soft plush can never dethrone “Jojo the grated rabbit”! But it all depends on the children: some comfort themselves by sucking their thumbs or a pacifier to fall asleep, while others need nothing. In addition, a comforter accompanies the child as he grows up. He reassures baby at night, and even if he remains stored in his backpack, the comforter allows the child to gain self -confidence and therefore to experience the situations that worry him calmly. For Kenza, young mother, The blanket is ideal for sending messages to your childwho identifies with him. “Doudou helped us in many moments. Through him, I make him understand things. At the start of the school year, for example, I invented a story that said that Doudou was afraid, but that everything would be good … more effective than a book!”
