The relationships between young people evolve, for the most part with tolerance and kindness, but we are sometimes far from suspecting reality. Especially if we compare it with our own generation.
Adolescents are going through a multitude of physical and emotional upheavals, but it is quite rare that they confide in their parents. Generally, they dare not approach the subject of romantic relationships with them (and even less of their first time), and if they do it, they remain quite short. Dorian, 16, feels much more comfortable with his aunt Jennifer, with whom he speaks without any taboo. “”With my nephew, we talk about everything. It is important that he has a confidante to ask questions. At least I can advise him with an adult look, reassure him and support him if necessary, without judging him “says the young woman of 41 years. But when they discussed adolescents of her age, Jennifer was far from imagining that things had evolved so much compared to her own generation.
“In my time, we had a lover, and it was rather an event in the playground“, She recalls. Today, young people seem to experience more things, fortunately, without there being mockery …”Dorian is educated in a private school, and one day, he told me that many young people of his age wanted to “try” with a boy, or with a girl. So he told me that he would also try to kiss a boy to see the difference. What they like is above all the person they have in front of them“Explains Jennifer.”Finally, he prefers girls, but he is rather happy to have tried, and do not regret it “she said.
Another difference struck her: today’s young people who have grown up with new technology and social networks, they already have access to meeting apps. Some are also dedicated to under 18s. “”This is how he met Moussa, a 15 -year -old who lives in the Paris region“, Adds the tata. As a confidante, she was able to alert her nephew, especially on the risks of speaking to strangers on the Internet.
But are these developments common to all young people today? We asked Vincent Joly, children’s and adolescent psychologist. According to him, “We see more evolution of bisexuality or homosexuality in the fairly educated city center of city center, with a much more tolerant point of view and close to the norm. Conversely, there is a great diversity of reports to norms according to religions and social circles “specifies the specialist. And then there are also many teenagers who consult by being in a rejection: “They don’t want anyone, they have a very negative vision of sexuality and I think it is because of another problem: access earlier and earlier to pornography“, estimates Vincent Joly.
If it is for him a real public health problem which must absolutely be solved, that parents reassure themselves: “The majority of teens have a relationship with the other close to that of their parents, they have a friend or a friend, are in love and romantic, have their first report at 17-18 years, are faithful “… for many, everything is therefore quite similar to what their own parents have known.
