When you become a parent, everything changes, especially our vision of things and the world. For most of the mothers we have interviewed, some of these behaviors are quite common.
Welcoming a child upsets the daily life of all parents. We sleep less, we have much less time for ourselves, we worry more, we run everywhere, we see our priorities again, but above all, we multiply by a thousand our dose of love … And then, certain things of life become very different. Small details that make us see things differently or sometimes surprise us. Sandra, Eloïse, Audrey and Céline entrusted us with these behaviors or these feelings that they did not necessarily have before becoming mothers.
For most parents, there is first the observation of the world around them. It is well known, children analyze everything they see and ask a multitude of questions to which adults do not always know how to answer. When they walk with their child, these mothers recognize that they did not really take time to enjoy nature. “”Now, I see things with children’s eyes: we observe the leaves of the trees that move with the wind, the ants, the bees and the flowers, the birds that fly away, the planes that take off, we try to touch the moon …“, Eloïse says, mother of a three -year -old girl.
Céline, a mother of two children aged 8 and 5, found her gaze to the teenagers she meets in the street or in the metro has changed. She observes them carefully and tenderness. “”Before, I just saw a group of teens who made noise, now I project myself, I say to myself “I hope that my children will also have a nice group of friends, or that they will be as well high (or on the contrary that they will be more polite) than the young people who are in front of me”tells us the young woman.
All parents also become more sensitive, like Audrey, which is almost unable to watch a too sad film in which children are involved. “”Before, I had enough perspective to watch a film or a series in which we see children die, or sick in hospitals. Now, I make a kind of transfer, I put myself in the place of the parents, or I imagine my child being in the same situation“, She adds.
Finally, Sandra, like the majority of mothers, can no longer step back when her son Léo is bothered by other children. “”I become a lioness, I work in the second and I almost want to hit everyone, when I know they are 5 -year -old children!“If it puts into perspective, this behavior is stronger than it. Eloïse also acts in the same way.”I became very protective, and even if we know that you have to let the children manage between them, I can’t stand that someone comes to push my daughter for no reason or make her cry. The other day, I argued suddenly and the child rose to the field“… Finally, becoming a parent is also becoming more observant, sensitive, tender and protective. And you?
