“With each passing decade, we lose our enthusiasm” notes Barbara Pagano, coach and author of “the crisis of 60 years and more”.
Judith, a dynamic sixties, never leaves room for boredom: she invests in a real estate renovation project, participates in her reading club and engages in the associative life of her parish. In contrast, Maximilien, a recently retired lawyer, says: “Me, I get bored to die“. For many, the sixties rhyme with a loss of benchmarks. Time is getting longer, the days are alike, and we no longer know what to hang on. The feeling that the future is devoid of ambition intensifies as autonomy is reduced. Barbara Pagano, coach and author of” the crisis of 60 years and more “, highlights this reality:”With each passing decade, we lose our enthusiasm “. Faced with the boredom that can settle, it offers to open certain very simple “doors” to restore meaning to her life after 60 years.
The first door, entitled “Geography”, invites to reconsider its living environment. “”You have to think about where you want to live, not only by habit“, Explains Barbara Pagano. The idea is to get out of the unconscious comfort, not to stay in a place just because we have been there for a long time. This change does not necessarily mean moving in another city or countries, but reinventing its daily space. Rearranging its interior, playing with light or integrating vegetation can be enough to break with boredom and to breathe new energy. The second door,”. The after-60 years is a pivotal moment between past professional life and a new life to build.Retirement offers uncompromising time that it is possible to reinvent“, says Barbara Pagano. This free time becomes a precious resource to invest in personal projects. It can be a new professional activity, an unsuspected hobby or a voluntary commitment. The main thing is to seek activities that stimulate and give meaning.
If we want to go further, we push the third door, called “relationships”. “”At 60, it is essential not to let your relationships deteriorate or become superficial“, Insists Barbara Pagano. The quality of family, friendly, love or community ties, becomes essential. Here, we must reassess relationships, identify those that actually feed and cut toxic or superficial links. The time has come to cultivate long -standing friendships, feed family relationships and create new links through clubs, groups of mutual aid or artistic activities.
Finally, the fourth door is that of “freedom”. “Retirement is an opportunity to do what you could not have done during your career, to give more room to your desires and to fully assume what you want to become”, explains the coach. It is a question of regaining control of your time, choices and personal development. These four doors are as many levers to reinvent his life. After 60 years, boredom is not inevitable. Sometimes you just have to open a door – or two – to find the desire.
