The experiences of life sometimes make us stronger.
It is not always the most visible events that build mental strength, but often those who force us to get up, let go or persevere in silence. The first thing in life that, without looking, strengthens our mental resilience is failure. “”Failure helps us to reinvent ourselves, go further and make ourselves more flexibleindicates Amélie Boukhobza, doctor of clinical psychology and psychoanalyst. Confronting, making mistakes and making mistakes give us weapons to move forward in life. Everything is to be able to bounce back and move forward“. If you have the feeling of failure, think of this quote from Nelson Mandela who will certainly help you motivate yourself:” I never lose. Either I win or I learn. The second thing is the loss of a loved one. If it is always a very difficult ordeal, it is most often surmountable. The end of a path is always the start of a new path. “”The loss of a loved one teaches us to use new weapons in life. She puts order in the important priorities for us“Adds the clinical psychologist.
Childhood trauma also has a very strong impact in identity construction. “”A child who lost a parent very early for example is a terrible test for his construction. He will have shortages all his life, it is undeniable. But perhaps it will be better armed than others to face certain aspects: less romantic dependencies or excellent autonomy capacities, for example. Some do not survive childhood trauma when others develop a very strong mental force“The fourth thing is to have had toxic relationships:”People who have experienced this kind of conflict know how to protect themselves and set their limits better because they know each other better. It is a force that we generally acquire with experience, and not otherwise. We manage to collect better and we have better abilities to bounce back“says the psychologist.
People who have introspection are as mentally stronger than the average. “”When you do psychic work on oneself, by introspection or therapeutic work, we know each other better. We know what our weaknesses are, our weaknesses, but we especially learn what our resources are to hold in such condition. Knowing what we are capable of makes us mentally very strong. “Being faced with the disease can also make stronger.”It is in the ability to deal with heavy treatments or a long illness that we see the mental strength of people, even if it is not the only criterion. In illness, people can realize what they are able to go through in the name of life, because they want to live. Some will give up, when others will fight the disease at all costs. A person who does it will have an unshakable belief in life“She underlines.
In seventh point, a loving and benevolent family environment during childhood makes it stronger. “A pampered, loved and protected child will feel strong. Family love is the basic base for natural and solid self -confidence in self -construction. The child will probably become an adult with an incredible mental force” continues the psychologist. Then comes the feeling of love: “Love brings us, everything becomes possible when we love and that we are loved in return. A couple based on love is solid. If one of the partners is experiencing a difficult test, it will be stronger, because it is surrounded and sustained.“Becoming a parent gives us a lot of responsibility.”A parent who loves his child will be ready for anything and will feel capable of everything“We learn to become kind, empathetic and understanding. We become more sharing and safer from us. Finally, the personal challenge gives wings:”When we go beyond our difficulties alone, we grow from these experiences. When we have a success and we give ourselves the means, success filled us with satisfaction and mental strength“Concludes the expert.
Thanks to Amélie Boukhobza, doctor of clinical psychology and psychoanalyst, creator of the podcast “You told me …” and the Instagram account @confidences.psy
