To be a household in a household is also to confront the eyes of others … and to their sometimes hurtful remarks.
Make the choice, or be forced to stay at home with children asks courage and selflessness. It is a full -time activity, with few breaks and especially without any recognition of society. If the number of housewives has been decreasing for several years, they remain much more numerous than housewives. And all the mothers who have experienced this situation know it, even if it only lasted the time for maternity leave, some comments can be extremely hurtful.
Why does everyone seem to have an opinion on what the daily life of a housewife should look like? Why are expectations that weigh on their shoulders so important? The day of a mother who remains at home is most often like a marathon: to take the eldest to school, sometimes recover it for lunch, take care of the baby, do the cleaning, the races, the linen, the medical appointments, cook. As Dr. Nona Kocher observes, psychiatrist, in an article published on the American site Purewow, “It is a physical and mental work “. And it is not because a woman remains at home that all the thankless tasks of everyday life must fall to her. However, this is still very often the case, sometimes with a real lack of recognition of the spouse.
If it is indeed a sentence that hurts more than the others, it is the famous: “But what are you doing all day? “. This remark completely invisits the tasks carried out by the housewife during the day. It is devaluing and can even be perceived as sarcastic. But other remarks can also be extremely hurtful: “You’re lucky, you don’t work” (Yes, it’s a chance to be able to take care of your children, but that does not mean that it is easy and that it is forbidden to complain!), “When do you go back to work?”, “I could never, I would get bored …”. Without forgetting the famous “Well the fridge is empty, you had that to do the shopping! ” from dad.
It is important not to let these sentences pass and to respond calmly, by recalling that you do not spend the day relaxing, between reading time, a lunch with friends and a manicure. Mamans at home must, like the others, be recognized for what they accomplish. And don’t forget to offer the dad to take your place for a day. It should give him his ideas in places!
