The couples who decide not to invite the children of their loved ones to their marriage are more and more numerous. But why have the little ones become persona non grata?
If you have not yet seen your children’s blacklisted children from your friends, it may well happen in the next receptions. Because more and more bride and groom are taking the plunge. An increasingly widespread choice, but which can sometimes shock the guests, who may want to share this beautiful moment with their children and their grandchildren. And then, in addition to the wedding gift, you will have to find a care solution and pay a baby-sitter … Only, we must not forget that it is the couple day and the couple only. It is therefore only up to the bride and groom to make the decision.
Some of them are nevertheless open to compromise and decide not to invite certain children, but to invite others. This can be those of members of the nearest family or their best friends, the godchildren and godchildren, or the youngest who cannot remain separated for a long time from their parents … It is a possibility, but the pill can be difficult to swallow for the guests whose children have been completely excluded. In some cases, children are only invited to the ceremony, but not to reception, or vice versa. The bride and groom can also offer, if the place allows them, to reserve a room for children, where they will be watched by babysitters (but this adds an additional cost to the bride and groom).
It is precisely to save money that certain couples take the lead by requiring their choice not to invite children to their marriage. And there are many reasons! Of course, the limited budget will encourage them to blacklist your cherubs: a wedding is expensive and pay for children who will just touch the meal and go to bed at 8 p.m. can put off couples. “The caterer asked us for 80 euros per adult, and 50 euros per child. Knowing that my cousins each have 3 to 5 children, the choice was quickly made. I also preferred to invite friends in place of the children of others, for the most part that I never saw”says Stéphanie, married this summer. Also understand that the bride and groom want to take advantage of their entourage, dance on the track by your side rather than seeing you take care of children and go early to put them in bed or to release the baby-sitter.
Without children, so they make sure to see you enjoy the wedding more, and party! Finally, inviting children to his marriage also involves managing them, especially during the religious ceremony, or certain moments of silence are to be respected. Without forgetting security: the bride and groom want to take any risks, especially if the reception location has a swimming pool, a pond or a pool …
