It is a sign of a repression of emotions.
The lack of self-confidence affects many people, regardless of our age or our socio-professional statue. Its manifestations are sometimes obvious, but it happens that they are more subtle insidiously interfere in our behaviors and our language. This fragility can come from several factors as past experiences of lowering, repeated failures, or trauma experienced during childhood. Often, the lack of self-confidence prevents us from reaching our full potential, now in a vicious circle of hesitation and self-sabotage, which can be deleterious on several levels (sentimental, friendly, family, professional life …).
Some sentences that are pronounced betray a lack of confidence in a blatant way. We frequently hear expressions like “I am not up” Or “I won’t be able to“. A little less obvious but just as revealing on the psychological level are sentences such as” it does not matter, there is worse than me “, which reflect a repression of our own emotions and a difficulty in feeling legitimate to feel what we feel, explains Christine Calonne, psychologist in Namur.
But there is a more insidious sentence, which is a warning sign of a lack of self-confidence: “I will do it tomorrow” Or “I’m waiting for another hour or two“. This is the signing of procrastination. According to our expert, procrastinating before something important, such as an examination, a presentation before an employee or an administrative task can reveal an underlying fear of failure and a conviction of not being up to par, often anchored in past experiences of devaluation.
To quickly regain self -confidence, several tracks can be explored. Already, it is essential to identify the cause of this lack of confidence to deconstruct it – a psychologist can help you understand the origin of your blockages. Developing self -assertion is crucial, for example by learning to say “no” without guilt or to express your opinions. “”Set yourself small achievable goals and celebrate each victory, even minimal, as successful in finishing a task that you postpone. Finally, do not hesitate to be accompanied by a professional if the lack of self -confidence becomes too invasive“Concludes our interlocutor.
