Organizing a wedding is not easy. So, imagine if your mother-in-law got involved. This is exactly what Alice is experiencing, in a relationship with Arnaud for 5 years. Testimony.
Arnaud has always had a close relationship with his mother. At first, this didn’t bother Alice, who even found it endearing. “When we saw each other, Nathalie was always very pleasant to me”remembers Alice. But his outlook has changed since the day the couple announced their marriage to him. The expectations are not the same for the mother-in-law and the young bride, who tells us her feelings.
Indeed, Alice and Arnaud dream of celebrating their love in a small group and having a very simple ceremony. But clearly, Alice’s mother-in-law doesn’t see it that way and has greater ambitions for her only son. “You only get married once in your life (well, I hope you do!), so you might as well do it with people. Let me help you with the organization“, she hastened to respond. This sentence immediately calmed Alice’s joy. “Of course, I know that her proposal was not based on a bad feeling and that she just wants to participate, but it bothers me. It’s our marriage, not his!“, annoys Alice who wants to organize a ceremony as she sees fit.
At the time, the young woman kindly thanked her mother-in-law for her help while making her understand that they would not need it. However, she did not hesitate to insist, claiming that they had a very large family on Arnaud’s side between uncles, aunts, cousins and his childhood friends. So, how do you succeed in asserting yourself against your mother-in-law? For his part, Arnaud told his mother that he didn’t see the point in inviting people he never sees. At the time, Nathalie said nothing more. Alice thinks that finally, her mother-in-law has gotten the message.
“However, a few days later, she started sending us emails with decoration ideas, places each one more immense than the other, she insists that we do a religious ceremony even though we want have a secular ceremony… She even wants to be present for the fitting of my wedding dress, the choice of the caterer, the preparation of the invitations, etc. I know she means nothing, but that’s too much. too much !“, laments Alice.
The young woman is so stressed that she is dreading her own wedding, planned for June next year. Fortunately, her future husband does everything he can to reassure her. Certainly, his mother is a little intrusive, but she is not the one who will dictate the course of their marriage.
