A few evenings ago she rushed over to us sixteen year old daughter in our room. He shouted: “Why didn’t you tell me I was adopted?”
It had happened that she had asked the two big brothers if she had been adopted and they had said yes!!
How should we interpret this strange behavior of the children?
SURPRISE PARENTS
Answer by Mariateresa Zattoni
– What a surprise, dear parents! Let’s try to examine how this works family system: there is one sixteen year old who has some doubts about the genetic belonging to his family and questions i brotherswho – perhaps – are amused by such a question and refer to the little sister who is right: it was adopted.
Up to this point it almost seems like a joke, but what is disconcerting is that the two brotherswho seem to have responded “for fun”, do not notice the devastation that has descended into their little sister’s heart.
And therefore, dear parents, you need to talk seriously to your parents childrenbecause no one is exempt from grasping as much as one joke it can hurt!
But there is a positive point: yours sixteen year old has come to give you her desperation, even with the tone of accusation (“Why didn’t you say so??”). And here you can praise her for it trust – albeit poorly expressed – that he showed you!
And you, obviously, were right to reassure her.
But there is another serious point that requires a family reunion (better if in the presence of an expert): it is in this circumstance that you can ask the eldest children who authorized them to try to “eliminate” their sister, just as you can ask your third daughter what behavior she has with her brothers to deserve such a “expulsion”…
Many things, if you have trustthey will come into the light of the sun. AND have faith!
