Opinion | Why Young Men Want to Be With Older Women

The oldest age gap that I had was eight years, and she was 35 and I was 27 years old. So I’m 34. The oldest I’ve been on a date with I want to say is close to 50. I am 28 years old and my ex-girlfriend was 42 and had two kids that were the same age as my siblings. More young men are seeking to date older women than ever before. I was really attracted to the level of emotional maturity that they could give me. Just the openness for a relationship, a real relationship. Exclusivity, something longer lasting. They tend to be more in their careers, and they tend to be more peaceful when it comes to dating. The dating app Feeld reports huge growth in this area in just the past two years. Really, because of a toxic dating world, all social media is: Men are trash. You know who’s not saying that? – The older ones up there. – Not ghosting me after six weeks. Women over 40 have more spending power and social capital than ever before. So is that why these new age gap relationships are all the rage? To find out, I spoke with writer and psychoanalyst Jamieson Webster, and New York Magazine writer Emily Leibert. Find us on YouTube at New York Times Opinion.